Valentine’s Day can be a difficult holiday for those with dementia and their loved ones. With the onset of dementia, traditional Valentine’s Day gifts and activities may no longer be an option. However, it is still possible to show your loved one that you care, even with dementia. Whether it’s Jack and Rose, who have been married for 40 years, or another couple living with dementia, this Valentine’s Day can be a meaningful celebration of your love for each other.
What is dementia?
Dementia is an umbrella term that describes a group of neurological disorders that affect memory, thinking, behaviour and the ability to perform everyday activities. It is caused by physical changes in the brain and can be progressive, meaning it gets worse over time. The most common form of dementia is Alzheimer’s disease, but there are other types such as Lewy Body Dementia, Frontotemporal Dementia, Vascular Dementia, and Mixed Dementia. Symptoms of dementia vary from person to person but can include memory loss, confusion, difficulty communicating, impaired judgment, and changes in personality. It can be difficult for family members to witness these changes in their loved ones, especially on special days like Valentine’s Day.
The changes that come with dementia
Dementia can be a frightening and distressing condition for both the person living with it and their loved ones. It causes a range of changes that can often take the sufferer by surprise. For Jack and Rose, the changes began with seemingly small things such as forgetting appointments or burning food.
As dementia progresses, it is not uncommon for people to experience memory loss, confusion, disorientation, difficulty communicating, problems making decisions and difficulty performing everyday tasks. These changes can be difficult to accept and can lead to feelings of anxiety and frustration.
It is important for family members to be aware of these changes and to provide support for their loved one to ensure their safety and comfort. Understanding the signs of dementia is crucial in helping to reduce distress, increase confidence and ensure that the sufferer remains engaged and connected with the world around them.
How to show your loved one you care?
Spend time with them: Going for a walk, doing something together or just talking can make your partner feel loved and respected.
Listen to them: Remember to listen patiently, as this is their way of expressing their feelings.
Show patience and understanding: Show compassion and patience, especially during those times when they are confused and overwhelmed by their emotions.
Take care of yourself: Make sure to take breaks and recharge so that you have the energy and patience to be there for your partner.
Stay involved in their life: Keep doing the things that your partner loves, such as going to movies, reading books, playing board games or listening to music together. This will make them feel appreciated and loved.
Care for their physical needs: Offer help with their day-to-day activities, like cooking, cleaning and bathing. This will give them a sense of security and make them feel cared for.
Valentine’s Day may be a difficult day for those living with dementia, but with a little love and care from you, it can still be an enjoyable one. Spend quality time with your loved one, show patience and understanding, and stay involved in their life — these gestures will speak volumes about how much you truly care for them.
And every time people ask Jack why he still want to stay with Rose, he just said that “Cause what kind of guy would I be If I was to leave when she needs me most”.
Please contact Uconnex Community Services as soon as you have any suspicions, or just have a chat to learn more about dementia.
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